Astrology and Interaction (2)

Astrological counseling can be funny in its own ways! A lot depends on the character of the clients participating. This time round, it was a rather young couple-just married and cracking jokes on each other at free will. The girl was dressed casually in a T-Shirt and jeans. The boy had no clue to what was proper dressing. His pant was like pajamas and the shirt was anywhere between a hood and inner wear. He had this great habit of grinning just as his newly wedded wife cracked jokes about him. 

‘ This guy is just impossible’, she said. The boy smiled.

 ‘What makes you think so?’ 

‘ He would find an idealistic theory for every damn thing from Google and read it aloud to me.’ 

‘That’s the norm today’, I said. The boy looked at her in glee! 

‘Well…’, she said, ’…we had long sessions of knowing each other sort of thing before getting married.’

 ‘Too good!’ 

‘That’s alright. He sort of almost recited the scriptures for ready reference-he has them on his finger tips.’

 ‘Great’ ‘No sir, that isn’t great at all. He simply changes the theory to suit his needs. Some times does not even remember what theory he had subscribed to!’ 

I turned to him. ‘Look…’,I said,  ‘…Look here young man. Art is for art’s sake. But principles are not. They are meant to be practised.’ 

The girl’s eyes glowed. ‘You said it’, she said. 

The boy looked into the floor, as though searching for something. The girl continued,

'Over morning coffee, he would explain theories about human behavior, group dynamics, and how society could be redesigned if only people understood each other better. One Sunday, as he passionately described a new framework on “efficient household collaboration, I asked, So… according to your model, who is responsible for fixing the leaking tap? Well, he said, ideally, responsibilities should emerge organically based on mutual alignment and—’ The boy opened up just then. 

‘ Theories are structural…’, he said, ’…knowing them is mandatory. But life is functional. Functions are related to time. I had a more important fixture. What do I do?’ ‘This is a new theory…’, the girl murmured! 

I put my hands up. ‘Are you married theoretically or practically?’

 Both looked at each other. ‘There is no theory…’, I said, ‘…only practice in marriage. Just avoid confusion and get going.’

 ‘My doubt is simple…’, said the girl, ‘…will he drop me like a pin when he feels like changing the theory or when he has more time for someone else?’  

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That’s the derivative every girl harps on-a rather dangerous one indeed. Mercury in the boy’s horoscope was in an Air Sign (Air signs are Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius) -the individual is interested in ideas and intellectual pursuits for their own sake. These people's communications are often concerned with social relationships, psychology, and group endeavours. The danger is being overly theoretical, with an impractical mental outlook. The individual must remember that the best idea is of no use unless it is put into action. Having said this, one must remember that ‘primary’ attitudes find resonance in ‘secondary’ approaches. Having observed such a situation from the horoscope, one must figure out where Sukra or Venus is placed-this is the best friend of Budha or Mercury. If Venus is also positioned here (normally these two are placed quite nearby)-Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius,there is a strong sense of social interrelations and a great interest in the psychology of others. They possess social charm and like stimulating friendships. I sought privacy with the boy.     

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‘Your horoscope suggests that you are a highly valued and respected individual in your society…’, I said, ‘…yes or no?’ He just shrugged as a matter of fact.

 ‘ You have a keen penetration into the psychology of individuals.’ He smiled. 

‘How do you place your wife on the scale of sensitivity and sensibility?’ He latched on to this one. 

‘She is more sensitive than sensible’ 

‘But she is your wife’ 

‘That is sensible to think’, he laughed.

 ‘But not to theoretize!’ He turned serious. ‘I take it’, he said.

 ‘You can go’, I said. He smiled and walked away. The girl peeped through the door and widened her eyes. She looked in all directions and wondered whether I wanted to talk to her or not. I didn’t show the intention. 

‘Bye’, she almost whispered!           

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