Astrology and Interaction (3)
The Distance Between Smiles
At a first glance, everyone thought Arjun and Madhavi were a perfect match. Arjun was charming, articulate, and effortlessly social. He had a way of making every room lighter. Madhavi was thoughtful, graceful, and observant—the kind of woman who noticed what others missed. Their marriage had been arranged, but the first few weeks felt warm and promising. Families were happy. Friends adored them. Social media was filled with smiling pictures from dinners, receptions, and weekend outings. But slowly, something began to disturb Madhavi. At every gathering, Arjun seemed… different.
Madhavi sat in a rather grim manner. Afterall, when a husband appears to attract other woman, there is trouble!
‘Can you sum up your problem?’, I asked.
‘ He laughs louder with other women, listens more attentively to them, remembers tiny details about their lives, jokes, teases, and leans in while talking. With me, he becomes strangely casual.'
‘Is he rude?’
‘No. Not rude.’
‘is he cruel?’
‘No. Not cruel.’
‘What is he against this backdrop?’
‘he is just… absent.’
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Well. Sukra (Venus) in a horoscope gives away a lot about the approach of an individual towards a relationship. It is important to understand the approach of the individual with whom one has a relationship since that premise enables the right approach. Approaches may be right in their own right but with an individual who has a different approach which would not gel with the given approach of the one who is preferring a relationship, there can be friction. The lady’s horoscope had Sukra (Venus) in a water sign (Cancer, Sorpio or Pisces). If this is the case, the approach is emotional-which defines their society, art, music and partnerships. They would empathise, sympathise, and exhibit depth of feeling. These individuals’ feelings are deeply hurt by neglect and social mistreatment. On the other hand, if the partner has Sukra (Venus) in an Earth Sign (Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn), the alignment is more towards practicality, status and comfort. They possess an uncanny knack of combining business with social relationships which draws them more towards mingling with fresh faces woefully ignoring their life partners. How does one go about it? It is difficult to tell the lady to take it in her stride. It need not be! The clue is with Kuja (Mars). Apparently, it is always a good idea to examine planets first in isolation and then in combination. The former defines the aspect. The latter reveals how to handle that very aspect! This is not a casual derivative. Sudents of Astrology should underline it in order to appreciate the richness in its content and application. I searhed for Kuja (Mars) in her horoscope. While dealing with Mars, one has to be clear about the propensity of the indiviual in understanding and developing an idea on an intellectual basis-whether they are guided by reason and intelligence rather than by impulse or emotional promptings. If you find an opening in on of these parameters, one cn go ahead with the directions. To this end, one must first confirm the position of Mars in an Air Sign( Gemini, Libra or Aquarius). In the present case, Mars was in Gemini which also happens to be a Mutual Sign( Gemni, Virgo, Sagittarius or Pisces). These individuals know how to change tactics periodically and get around difficulties. They have a versatile capacity for action. I asked Madhavi to return after one month duly asking her to observe and record the minutest details of his supposedly intimate behaviour aspects with other ladies whenever there was an opportunity. She did it overwhelmingly and appeared in my office at the very first opportunity. She gave me a diary. I studied it. There was a brief write-up under a date that ended with a question mark.
"Can you explain this?" I asked.
‘Yes. I knew you would ask. This lady approaches him in a boisterous manner every time we get to see her. They talk for some time and she makes it a point to look down upon him or make a stinging comment before she leaves and engages with someone else.’
‘Ok. How does Arjun take it?’
‘He appears to ignore but sometimes I feel that he carries it home!"
‘May I offer a suggestion?’
‘Go ahead."
"Just when he is trying to sleep…’
‘Should I bring the subject for a discussion?’
‘Not exactly a discussion…I need not tell you. Just go about it!’
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She returned in a fortnight, almost brightening up.
‘Mission accomplished?’, I asked. She smiled, ensured that the door was closed without noise, and settled down.
‘ One night, I asked him, placing my palm on his forehead…we had returned from a birthday party.’
‘Oh! What was it?’
‘I asked why he was unable to sleep. He wouldn’t say anything. I have seen that lady quite a number of times…that’s the way she behaves with many. Just ignore and go to sleep!-this is what I had said.’
'What did he say?’ ‘Not a word. He stared at me for a long time, turned the other way and found his sleep. I do not know how, but even I had found mine! His demeanour with these women is now measured and controlled. He seems to ahve put me on the other side of the sea-saw!’. Having said this, Madhavi laughed her heart out!
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The truth is, many relationships don’t fail because of betrayal. They struggle because of emotional misalignment, poor communication, and unspoken hurt. Sometimes the real problem isn’t “someone else.” It is the distance between two people sitting right next to each other.
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